Are You and Your Partner
Learning about your compatibility and marriage can be easy, here’s how…
Have you been getting mixed messages on what it takes to make your relationship strong? When I work with couples, I often hear that receiving so much information from friends and family can be overwhelming, confusing, and sometimes unrealistic. A big question that comes up is wanting to know if couples are compatible for each other.
Let us take a moment and break this down a bit. Compatibility can mean multiple things- that you feel safe, comfortable, seen, understood- but overall, it is some sense that you and your partner “mesh well.” There really isn’t any scientific data that says that you must fit into a particular box or meet an X amount of characteristics to make your relationship work. Research shows that couples who are likely to focus more on what is going well, are kind to each other, willing to hear each other’s differences, able to communicate about needs, are more likely to be satisfied with their relationship (Gottman & Silver, 1999). There are of course some huge red flags that will tell you that a relationship is “not compatible” and this falls under the toxic relationship umbrella. Behaviors that are abusive like intimidation tactics, control, physical, sexual, emotional, and mental abuse.
Other things to be aware of when it comes to being compatible with someone are to figure what is important for you (i.e. financial stability, practicing a particular faith, or starting a family) and make sure that this is something you can continue to have in your life with your partner. If your partner does not have the same priorities, hoping that they will eventually change and do what you want, will only lead to disappointment for you. Having a conversation about differences and what is working for both of you can help with feeling confident in your relationship and your compatibility.
Luckily for you, there has been decades of research that has been done that has studied couples in successful and unsuccessful relationships and many programs have been developed to help couples, like yourself, learn what the keys are to a successful relationship. The online relationship course that I share with couples has packaged this information for you and will take you step-by-step on what the keys are to a healthy marriage. The online course also takes you through talking about values and gives you the tools on how to handle moments when you and your partner have differences (which you will, because you are not a clone of each other).
This program is here to make your life simple by learning what you need to make your marriage strong and it takes out the guesswork on how to learn and implement healthy relationship skills.
Every couple deserves to have the keys to a healthy relationship, and you can learn those now at the following online premarital course! Click here to access the Online Premarital Course.
By Priscilla Rodriguez, M.S., LMFT, Owner of Modern Wellness Counseling
Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (1999). The seven principles for making marriage work. New York: Three Rivers Press.