What children may be experiencing:
For children, divorce can be difficult; but remarriage can be even harder. Some children may experience the following symptoms:
- Jealousy – Due to feeling that your fiancé is “stealing” you away from them.
- Anger – Children may express their anger and hurt feelings by saying things “I hate him” or “she’s just using you.”
- Betrayal – They may feel a sense of guilt to accept your fiancé because it is going against their loyalty to their biological parent.
- Sadness – Due to realizing that you and the other biological parent are not getting back together.
- Isolated – Children may feel like an outsider to the new family or as they see their parent showing affection to their new spouse.
How to focus on your marriage:
- Important to communicate with your partner that you are teammates.
- Discuss the transition, and expectations of each other.
- Remember why you are together and give yourselves time to engage in regular date nights
- If needed, family therapy may be helpful in setting clear boundaries and expectations.
Transitioning into a step-parent role may be uncomfortable and fulfilling at the same. Remember that you are creating your own family identity and that it will take time.